The people who make us forget

Sometimes we get to a point when everything in our lives connects to a beautiful memory about another person. It’s like everything that existed before, everything that wasn’t connected to that person somehow disappeared, dematerialized in a world of air and light only to be replaced by memories that are tied through an invisible wire with that someone, that person that erases everything that was and leaves you wondering if there ever was a life before them. There was, there definitely was a life before, but now it’s just a distant memory with details that keep fading away every minute…until the moment when even the memories that weren’t connected become connected and you feel like that person has morphed in your body, your mind and your soul…there’s no space, no time, no nothing…you are connected forever.

The seamlessness of big changes

We think that big changes should come with a thunder and be announced by some great event, yet most of the times big changes come seamlessly and after a while you just look back and realized things are just not the same. A few days ago when I updated my iPhone to iOS5, I realized that Apple works exactly like that. The updates are seamless, yet they somehow make you forget how things looked before…like a relationship that erases the previous ones and you’re left realizing that you just don’t remember how things used to be before.

People who change the world

There are people who change your life and you don’t even know it. You’ve never met them, you’ve never even been in their proximity, but somehow their life influenced yours in a way that they didn’t predict and most importantly you didn’t predict. I’ve never met Steve Job and the closest I’ve been to him was watching the Stanford commencement speech on YouTube many, many, many times in awe. Yet today at the news of his death, I felt this terrible sadness as if I had lost someone dear to me. I read the news on my MacBook, while talking on my iPhone…and somehow he was and will be part of my life. Somehow I felt sad for the loss of a man I never knew, who never knew me yet who was part of my life and had me as part of his.

One day…

Someone posted this photo on Facebook a few days ago and as I looked at it I started smiling.

We tend to look back at our relationships that didn’t work and view them as a waste of time, as if it stopped us from getting to our “one” sooner. I believe every relationship we ever have teaches us about being with the next person so if we’re mindful enough we get better and better so that one day we’re ready, ready to see the person that may have been there for a while, ready to allow them into our lives, ready to be our best selves and to see their best selves, ready to be patient, unconditional and loving, ready for that person who shows us why it would have never worked out with anyone else.